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Anonymous asked: This guy I like, he likes me too. But he still likes his ex, who is a close friend, & she likes him too. He said he wanted to be with me, not her. I believed him. We had our cute moments & they felt real, so real. I wasn't enough for him though. I found out he'd been kissing her. I told him we were over. I'm still hurting. I miss him & I want him back, I want us back. But I know he'll just hurt me again. I tried so hard... I loved him. I loved him so much. But it wasn't enough. I wasn't enough.

You were enough. He just didn’t see it. He just stupidly fell for the wrong person, believe me. Stand up tall girl - you shouldn’t be wasting time on a guy who’s not going to waste time on yours. He fucking kissed someone else - reality check. How can you possibly want a dickhead like him who gave you everything you thought you had? You’re so much better than that.  Get out there & be happy. Show him that you were fucking perfect and that he has lost someone so special. Show him that you don’t him & that you’re much better off without him. Why? Because you are


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Anonymous asked: I'm a female trapped in a male body, and I'm completely alone, and I don't kno wwhat to do, because I don't want to appear as a crosssdresseer, but I'm scared.

You have nothing be scared about. The first thing you need to do is accept yourself. In order for everyone else to love you & accept you for who you are, you need to love & appreciate yourself first. I’m not exactly very knowledgeable when it comes to crossdressers, but all i know is that if you’re more comfortable in wearing the opposite genders clothes, then go for it. Yes, there will be critics and judgments along the way, but you can’t stand not being yourself forever right? One day you’re going to have to get out of the box & show the world who you are. & who you are is amazing. Be proud. Don’t be scared.


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Anonymous asked: There's this guy I like and he already knows it. And well, THE WHOLE CLASS knows it already. Then I found out he likes a girl from the other class, and when I asked my friend about it, he already knows it. Meaning to say, the class also knows who his crush is and it ISN'T ME. What do I do now? I feel VERY EMBARRASSED and really hurt...

don’t worry about it! Who gives a damn about what these people say, seriously. The only way for it to be embarrasing for you, is if you get it to you. If people say, ignore it. If they continue to say shit, then say you don’t like him anymore anyways.
And as for being hurt - once again, you’re going to be okay. You will come across to plenty of breakups & rejection. You just need to stand up to yourself & say “fuck it. I don’t need him . I’m a beautiful girl & I will soon enough find the right guy” Yes, it will be hard for you to cope with moving on from him & all that, but you will eventually get over him don’t worry. Just try and be positive about it all, k?


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Anonymous asked: so i really like this boy and ive liked him for ages. i think about him everyday, but my friends say i should give up on him cos he keeps messin me about. should i?

dont give up on someone you cant go a day without thinking about, ever. its your life, your decisions. they cant control who you fall for, not even you can. if its supposed to be then eventually things will work themselves out, if not, you havent lost anything. :)


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Anonymous asked: hey, how do you know whether you like someone or not? I'm contradicting myself, I want to reassure myself that I don't like him, but on the other hand, I think I like him. I have no idea how to tell, help please?

LOL omg, I’m in the exact situation as you. You’re trying to convince yourself that you like him, but for some heck of reason, he never seems to get off your mind, right? All I know is that continuing to lie about your own feelings to yourself is not going to affect how you truly whatsoever. So simply ask yourself honestly - does he give you butterflies whenever he speaks to you? Does he make you smile so much even if there’s nothing really to smile about? Do you feel like you want to talk to him all day & everyday? Can you imagine yourself being with him?

Ask yourself that. Answer it honestly. & there’s your answer.


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Anonymous asked: So, there's this guy. we are best friends now. i've had a crush on him since summer when we used to call and text eachother everynight. Well, i don't know if i'm wasting my time trying to impress him or anything. but i'm really good friends with him. so, what i'm asking is : should i keep on trying?

personally, I would. I mean, if you stop trying that means you’re going to have to talk to him in order to forget him, right? And seeing as you guys are close friends, how is that possible? There will be risks of rejection and uncertainty for sure, but it’s worth giving it a shot, right? If you guys are super close, then maybe he might or has developed feelings already. Just continue doing what you’re doing and see how things go from there


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Anonymous asked: Hey Ella! Simple one: I like a girl, she gives me mixed signals, and i dont want to make the wrong move. How do i know what the real signals are?

When you’re certain that she feels the same way. When you know that she truly does like you. If she continues to give you mixed feelings, it either mean shes not sure of how she is meant to feel OR she’s just playing around. Don’t make a move if you’re not 100% that she feels same way. Or else you’re just going to hurt yourself


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Anonymous asked: hey ella.. i think im depressed and have been for a while.. i can't stop cutting and i'm too scared to ask for some help. does life get better? my father gambles and he always did, he never cared for us and threw all that money down those stupid machines.. my mum is doing her best to raise us and she is just not in good health. i've never been more scared. please help, thankyou.

You need to love yourself first. Why cut? You’re just going to make your life miserable as well as everybody else you love. If you love your mum, you should stop. Believe me, you need to stay strong. I know how it feels to be in a hard family situation, but trust me, hurting yourself isn’t going to make things better. You will overcome the bad days - you just need to stand up for yourself and MAKE things better. Don’t just sit around & feel yourself. There’s millions of people out there who are in your situation, you’re not the only one. But that doesn’t mean you should follow along & go the wrong path. Get your life better. Stop cutting. Stop damaging your life. If you want your mum to stay strong, you need to be strong yourself. I pray that your mum gets better. All my blessings for you. As for you - you need to have a reality check that in order for you to get back on track in life & be happy, you need to get up & think positive.


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Anonymous asked: Do dreams mean anything?

erm, i honestly dont know aha:3 some people think they do but im not sure:)


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Anonymous asked: Do you ever see people and think "wow, that person has it all going for them. They have all the friends in the world, all the good looks, they are intelligent and sporty." and you think they have no problems or issues. Well when you see someone like that, don't be mislead. If you know someone like that, ask them how life is going. Because everyone has problems, some just choose to put on a fake smile and go with it. Others cry themselves to sleep and beg for an escape. That person is me...

Well I’m sure you as well as everybody has problems to deal with. If you want to vent/talk about something and let out how you feel, I’m here. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. Don’t hide your feelings because there are so many people who love you. Who would listen to you and help you out through hard times. 


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Anonymous asked: well i've liked this guy for 3 years and i've told him many times and one day he goes to me that he doesnt think it'll work and said sorry. and ever since we've hardly spoken to each other. i'm still in love with him till this day and idk what to do :( should i just give up or still go for it?

If you want to take a risk of getting your heart broken - once again, then go for it. But if you actually take the time to realise that if he rejected you, then it means that he’s not the one. Stop wasting your time on someone who’s not going to do the same. If guys didn’t work out, it’s meant to be. It means that he is not the one. So stop loving someone when you can find someone else who will love you back. Stop wasting your heartache on someone who’s not caring one bit. You’re better than that.


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Anonymous asked: should i get a cartilage piercing? does it hurt? will it get infected? im scared

oh its really up to you if you want it or not. But i don’t have a cartilage piercing so i don’t know whether it will get infected or if it hurts or not /: sorry. 


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Anonymous asked: i feel so insecure, i hate how i look and im scared that people wont like me.

just be you. because youre beautiful in every way. BE-YOU-TIFUL. if people dont like you for who you are, then they obviously arent worth it anyway. dont worry about how you look, im sure youre beautiful. dont let hate get you down.


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Anonymous asked: Is it possible to like somebody you haven't even met?

Indeed it is possible. It just simply means that you have fallen for their personality rather than physical needs and/or appearance. 


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Anonymous asked: what is it like to be in a relationship? It mustve been great right? :) I'm 15 and im still so noob when it comes to love :) Hahas,

like anything, relationships has its ups and downs. But overall you could say, being with someone has more positives than negatives. Personally, my past relationships did not end well obviously seeing as I’m single but what I really enjoyed about being in a relationship was the fun first few months of just “head over heels” with each other. No one was bored, every talk wasn’t repetitive nor boring - just everything seemed so perfect & easy going. & then as time goes by, someone either gers bored or bad habits begin to unleash crazily into the open. That’s when you head downfall. That’s when arguments/fights/silent treatments begin to occur. So my answer to you is that being in a relationship is lovely but that doesn’t mean it can make you endlessly happy.


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